It All Flows Out of The Mind


Just last week I had prepared my 8th-grade football team for competition against another undefeated team.  Our confidence was relatively high as we were at 3-0 and feeling good about our progress as a team thus far. 

Despite this, I had noticed that I  had not been as motivated and driven as I usually am as a coach.  The team's energy was low, as practice and game prep appeared sluggish and mediocre at best.  Concentration seemed to be an issue and mistakes and lack of focus was prevalent.  I seemed a little down myself, as many life factors, (job, family, tackling to-do lists) seemed to affect my general overall health.  We all have days and weeks like this, but this week seemed exceptionally off with a busy calendar and little rest.

The Four D's

As we approached game time, I could tell my players lacked energy. They were basically just going through the motions.  I always preach about the four D's;...
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Will Power vs. Want Power

What sounds more motivating to you? “I want to go work out"? Or "I have to go work out?”

While there are many philosophies about the purpose of life, it is safe to assume that one of the main purposes of life is for humans to be happy. But what causes or creates happiness? This of course varies from person to person, but the one constant is that people are usually their happiest when they are doing the things that they want to do; the things they are passionate about; the things that enrich their lives.

We all have the power to choose and create whatever our heart desires. We hold the power to decide what we want, and then simply move toward it.

Want Power

Want Power is the pursuit of things that make us happy, independent of what others think or want for us. Dr. Seuss had something simple, yet very powerful to say about this:

"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind."

This is so true.


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People Pleasing Is A Curse

Hi, my name is Jeff, and I am a recovering people pleaser. 

I always thought that I alone was 100% responsible for everyone else’s happiness in the world. Growing up, I felt I had to win in sports, not upset anyone, follow all rules, felt responsible for everyone else's feelings, and do exactly what I was told, or I was a horrible person. There was no gray area in my mind. 

A glaring example of this was when I worked at the Olympic committee helping athletes that were struggling with eating disorders. I did not enjoy my time there because of the politics and they operated on a completely different belief system than me. This caused many fights with the coaches for how they dealt with the athletes. I felt completely powerless, depressed, and beat down. 

The worst part of it was that I continued to work there only because I wanted to be able to tell people, “hey, look at me, I’m cool, I work at the Olympic...

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How To Practice In Your Mind

Imagine if you could cut your practice time for any sport or activity in half and still improve. Would you do it?   

Professionals say that it takes roughly 3,000 swings of the golf club to change your swing so that it becomes natural. That's a lot of swings and a lot of time! What if you could construct and visualize the perfect swing over and over again in your mind instead of actually physically swinging the club that many times?

Visual imagery, or mental rehearsal, is a memory technique that involves constructing mental images when learning new information in order to be able to better recall the information later.

Visualization is very powerful. Thinking and visualizing negative scenarios can cause you to underperform by creating head trash that will lead you in the wrong direction. However, positive visualization primes your mind and body for success by imprinting successful outcomes in your mind. The more you can imagine successful ...

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Do. Or Do Not.

Do. Or Do not. There is no Try.” ~Yoda

I have always loved this quote. And, really, how can you NOT heed the advice of a 900-year-old Jedi master muppet? Other than the fact that he's kind of cute in an odd sort of way and he is extremely powerful, this little guy laid down major knowledge on the regular. He had a way of saying things in such a way that resonated. This particular quote is one of his most popular because it's a reminder to commit yourself to something completely, win or lose.   

Try Implies Lack of Commitment 

Words matter. The dialogue we have with ourselves is very telling. The use of the word try is usually a strong indicator that the action or behavior will never happen because it is signaling half measures. There is a lack of commitment. By its very definition, it means to make an attempt or effort. Making an attempt is a much different mindset than I'm doing. When you have committed...

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How To Ditch The Head Trash

Head trash. What exactly does that mean? It's the stuff that rolls around in our heads and stops us from getting what we want. Head trash usually causes us to put self-imposed limits on who we are and what we can be. Head-trash is an irrational story that you tell yourself, like, you have to be perfect. 

I call these self-imposed limits,“Limiting Beliefs”. These beliefs are where the doubt, anxiety, and fears are all rooted. It’s ultimately what keeps you from being as successful as you want to be. 

How do you overcome limiting beliefs?


  1. Identify the Belief that is limiting your success. Be as specific as you can. Examples: 

Fear of failing, I have to be the best. 

Belief that you aren't enough just the way you are. 

Belief that you had to prove or show others how good you are. 

Belief that people will reject you if you fail. 

Fear of looking stupid or embarrassing yourself. 

2. Identify a possible situation where...

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Are You Your Biggest Fan?

Think about the “real” story you are currently telling yourself? 

Honestly answer the following questions in your head: 

  1. Am I capable of reaching my goals?
  2. Do I deserve to reach my goals?
  3. Do I believe 100% in my abilities to reach my goals?
  4. Do I let a fear of what others think of me keep me from taking chances?
  5. Am I working as hard as I can?
  6. Do I sabotage my success in some way?
  7. Can I set big goals and accomplish them? 

So, after asking yourself those questions, what story are you telling yourself? Is it a positive, motivating, success-driven story? Or is it a doubt-laden, “poor me” victim story? 

Fan or Critic

The number one question that I have found that has the most drastic and immediate change on people is this...Are you your biggest fan or your biggest critic? 

If you answered that you are your biggest critic, then imagine have the worst, meanest coach sitting on your shoulder, screaming,...

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Champions Own Their $H!%

How do we separate the champions from the posers? How do we tell the difference between the truly mentally tough and the wannabes?

True Champions Own Their $H!%. Owning your shit means getting real with yourself and talking about the doubts, fears, anxieties, stresses, and worries that you have. Most fears aren't even based on reality. Fears tend to dissipate when we bring them into the real world by talking about them.  As our fears fade, our confidence goes up! We build our confidence by addressing your fears!  

Most people run from their fears. We have been taught to avoid feelings that make us uncomfortable. For example, if you have a fear of heights, you don't go into high places. But you also miss out on all of life's experiences that include heights, like, rollercoasters, flying, tall buildings, Bungie jumping........

So, if you are avoiding feelings like pressure, doubt, or fear because they are scary feelings, they are always going to be there until you...

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Champions Are Made In The Off-Season

I’m sure you have heard this before, but what does it really mean?  It means to take time off and be average, or work different with the same intensity and be great.

A Champion or Peak Performer sees the regular season as the time to perform.  The performance comes from muscle memory.  The skills have been developed and are now ready for competitive play at game time.  The Peak Performer does not have to consciously think about their game while in the middle of it.  This "muscle memory" allows them to play instinctively, freely, and without hesitation or doubt. 

So, why can’t these skills be learned during the season?  

The off-season is not the time to take time off and relax. Developing a high level of trust in your skills only comes from purposeful practice, where every activity is strategically designed to improve performance purposefully. This is done most effectively when not “distracted” by playing the game....

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What's Your Excuse? 21 Ways to Kill Your Motivation

The new year is upon us and millions of people from around the world are hoping this coming year will be better than the last by making a New Year's Resolution. 

A recent Finder survey reveals that 141.1 million adult Americans — or 55.31% of all American adults — think that following through on their New Year’s resolutions is well within the cards. But according to a study conducted by the University of Scranton, just 8 percent of people actually achieve their New Year’s goals, while around 80 percent fail to keep their New Year’s resolutions.  (Even though we don't believe in "failing", only learning opportunities)

Bottom line:  the odds are not in your favor that you will follow through on a New Year's resolution! 

Making a change and getting what you want in life comes down to getting yourself to do what needs to be done when it needs to be done. The two biggest reasons for not following through is lack...

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